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Thursday
May302013

4 YEAR ANNIVERSARY + SOME MARRIAGE TIPS...

I could not be happier to have married this man. He is beyond patient with the fact that he married an entrepreneur (why are there not support groups for this?!) and I am so grateful with all that he does in our marriage. In addition to working 9-6 he has taken up cooking and is totally winning in this arena. I am working on being a better cleaner of dishes as a thank you. He supports me in every way and I could NEVER have started my own business without him. That's a fact. He is such a good man and I am lucky that opposites really do attract. In light of our 4 year anniversary I thought of some helpful tips I've discovered along the way...

1. Express gratitude in the everyday. The power of a sincere, heartfelt "thank you" is truly undervalued. Taking notice and showing appreciation for the tasks your loved one does like taking out the trash or cooking a meal after a long day of work is a small gesture that has a lot of mileage. This is an area I can stand to improve in. 

1. Remember you're a team and in it to win it. When life throws you a curveball or two I think it's helpful to be mindful that you are in this together and to not let rough patches turn you against eachother. Tackle both the good and the bad with the spirit that you are an unshakeable duo! 

3. Find ways to recharge your souls. I think travel, however big or small, is the best way of shaking up the monotony of life and a great reset button for your heart and mind. I noticed that my husband was noticeably happier and calmer after a recent trip to the beach that I am making it a priority that we do this at least once a year... even though I am not a beach lover by any stretch of the imagination... just seeing how much it brightened his outlook is worth its weight in salt. 

4. Do not let comparison be the thief of joy. I find in the late twenties it is all too easy to look around and feel a sense of "keeping up with the Joneses". This is a slippery slope. This is not a great way of measuring success and will only muddy your own perspective. Just because you can't build a new fence or paint the house at this moment does not mean you're failing. Slow and steady wins the race...

5. Admit you're wrong. A sense of humor goes a long way. My new coping method when I know I've made mistakes is complete and utter self-mockery and self-deprecation. It's a much more charming way of admitting you're wrong and takes a little bit of the edge off. This is a new technique that I've adopted and it seems to be working well for both of us. Also, as much as "thank you" is undervalued I think "I'm sorry" gets a lot of neglect. It's shocking what those two phrases can accomplish.